Give It Your All Or Don’t Do It At All

Giving it your all textWould You Like to Discover Why a Poor Black Youth Became a Billionaire?

More progress and opportunities in life are forfeited by half hearted efforts than one can ever imagine. Something is deficient in a person’s character when they relapse into obscurity when what they are pursuing doesn’t happen fast enough. This can easily cause the average person to become cynical and skeptical of opportunities. In fact, their cynicism reveals itself in their behavior and lack of drive. They become nonchalant or casual in their efforts because they’ve lost hope of anything ever happening favorable for them.

Sustained success will never come to those who are casual in their endeavors. And, if you are in a hurry to be successful, you will inevitably end up making one blunder after another. Whatever you do, it has to be intentional and purposeful. Choose the battles worth fighting and only fight if there is benefit involved. Learn to take your time. Success is always in walking distance. You either have to give it your all, or don’t give it at all.

If you do something half-heartedly, you have more of a chance of losing both whatever you want, and the possibly yourself in the process. You can’t allow fear or apathy to dictate to you because they can cause you to miss out on living your best life. If you’re going to have a chance at succeeding, you have to give it your all, despite the challenges. Oftentimes, failures are experienced by people who give up before realizing how close they are to success.

I’ve discovered that just knowing something isn’t enough; you have to apply the knowledge. To be willing may sound admirable, but this is not enough; you have to employ action to make things work. You must become the change you want to see. Unless you change, nothing will change around you.

One of the greatest weaknesses in life is giving up. The most certain way to succeed in life is always to do it just one more time when something doesn’t work. Do not fear mistakes because God specializes in turning mistakes into miracles. The only way failure can actually exist is if a person is no longer willing to get up. People with options are usually those who anticipate failure in what they are doing, so they run to the next endeavor before they fulfill the expectation of the first.

How do you kill a man with a dream—give him another one. It is easy to give into distractions when your dream doesn’t seem to be working out. Most people struggle with perseverance and would rather capitulate to the circumstances than fight for their dream. It was George Burns who said, “I honestly think it is better to be a failure at something you love, than to be a success at something you hate.”

What you want to do, and what you can do, is limited only by what you believe you can do. Your dream, your business, your family, and your life must be valued enough to lose the fear of opposition; you must work hard and do whatever it takes to achieve success in these areas. This is how you will grow.

There are only two categories of people—the ones who will give their all and the ones who admire the ones who will give their all. Those who give 50%, also give 50 excuses why something can’t be done … Those who give 100%, just do it.

When challenges create a need for me to step out of my comfort zone and exert more energy than I might be willing to give, I consider how preserving beyond them will benefit me more than the discomfort. I could easily come up with 50 reasons why something can’t be done, but how is that productive? It’s always better for me to just do it!

Michael Jordan was not born with a silver spoon in his mouth. He did not have extra gold dust sprinkled on him at birth. He had the same possibilities as anyone else—he just had a greater desire to succeed than most. After being cut from his high school basketball team, he learned a valuable lesson. If you are going to succeed in living your dream, it’s going to take more than talent…it’s going to take you giving your all.

It’s not as important to know how he became a billionaire, as it is important to know why he became one. The why always exceeds the how! Therefore, whatever you do in life; whether it’s playing sports, being a student, a janitor, or working as the manager of an assembly line, if you can discover the why you want something bad enough, the how will manifest with ease.

Whatever you do in life, give it your all or don’t do it at all. It’s not worth doing, if your heart is not in what you’re doing. If You Want More Out Of Your Life? Give It Your All, Give It Your All, Give It Your All!

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What Everybody Ought To Know About What It Cost To Be The Boss

Cost to be the boss textI’m writing this blog for those who are not your everyday, typical entrepreneurs who are caught up with the thought of just having a business, but rather for those who view themselves as a dream seeker and a game changer—ready to make a profound impact on the world.

In order to make an impact on today’s society, it will require more than just having an idea. You’ve heard the old cliché, “Ideas are a dime a dozen,” but I say the one who does whatever it takes to transport that idea into reality will make millions. For this to happen, it requires out-of-the-box thinking and actions with radical strategic moves that will distinguish you from the slew of professional dreamers that talk a good game. With more than 7 billion people on this planet, what makes you and your dream different? What makes what you do any different from the next person? Is it how you do it or is it how you sell it?

Most people think they can easily start and efficiently run a successful business, but I will tell you that to become a power player in this highly aggressive and competitive market or to become an achievement magnate does not begin with the simple launch of a business concept. No, it begins with the cultivation of your mind and will. You have to be absolutely certain that being in business is not only what you want to do, but that it is in your DNA to own and operate your own dream business. I strongly believed that the potential to start and run a business was placed within me by my Creator before I was born. However, to harness and develop this rare intrinsic quality didn’t come without listening to several business midwives to help birth this ability.

Do you believe God wants you in business? I can tell you that God does want some of you in business for yourself, but not by yourself. God wants to help you to succeed in business. Don’t give in to this false notion that God is not interested in business. This is far from the truth. To own and operate a business helps to serve your community by providing goods and services. If God is concerned with business ethics, then He is concerned about business. Christians have to understand this as well as anyone else.

Being your own boss sounds attractive until you realize what it all entails. You must be mentally and somewhat physically prepared to work long hours. Your family has to already be balanced and mentally sure of your devotion to them before entering the business world. The daily demands of running your own business and the constant unpredictable situations that will most likely arise can overtake your life, and cause the lines between home and work to become vague.

However, if running your own business is what you really want and you are fully aware of the cost—go for it! Considering the nature of most businesses, you may have to give up most of your evenings and possibly weekends. Many business owners use their evenings and some weekends to catch up on admin work, which can be tedious and exhausting.

In order to start and get your business rolling, it will demand a lot of your attention. Despite all your planning, the unexpected is sure to pop up. So, don’t expect time off like those who work a regular job. Many people who work for themselves cannot afford to take three to four weeks of vacation holiday each year, especially in the first several years. You might have to give up social activities you enjoy, for a time, at least, and use that time to mingle at city Chamber meetings. Friends and family might not get to see you as much as you or they would like. This is why having a secure relationship with your spouse is paramount because he or she can so easily give in to feeling neglected. You will have to manage your time wisely, so that when you are with your family, you will give them your undivided attention.

Are you ready to pay the cost? If so, there are other costs that come into play in order to be the boss. It’s easy to get carried away with the attractive characteristics of starting and owning a successful business, but the reality is, you will most likely have to wear more than one hat as the owner. You must be prepared to be the receptionist, assistant, delivery person, and the janitor. Without question, success only comes at a premium. To integrate mind adjustment principles, along with business savvy will make you unstoppable in both your life and your business. To help you do it, let me first walk you through the journey of an entrepreneur.

Look for my blog next week as we journey through this process of WHAT EVERYBODY OUGHT TO KNOW ABOUT WHAT IT COST TO BE THE BOSS. Click below to buy my book Unexpected Treasures as a foundation to help you discover your hidden treasures.

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Breaking The Cycle of Average

Breaking the cycle of average textHere is a line from the movie Sister Act II, starring Whoopi Goldberg, which served as a motivation for me to thrive in life; “If you want to be somebody, and you want go somewhere… you better wake up and pay attention.”

There is a very large class of people in society that you want to stay as far away from their influence as possible unless you want to be a part of them. Whether you heard of this group or not, the most important thing about this group is that you do not want to be a part of it. People in this group are not necessarily bad people, but if anyone from this group has your undivided attention, they may be a deterrent to your progress. This consortium of people is commonly known as ‘The Average 90.’ This is a group of people who may be stuck in a box without any desire or passion to break out of it. They avoid risk, abandon conflict, and run from any challenge that requires more than a mediocre effort.

Are you the kind of person who will give that little extra to achieve more than what the average person can accomplish? Average people live in the shadow of excellence—always admiring the achievements of others who are not as gifted, but apparently more daring. You don’t have to be the smartest or strongest person to achieve greatness. Have you noticed that the cleverest people in school are usually not those who are the most successful or who leave their mark on life? If you want to be better than what you presently are, you must do things differently or better than others whose standard is ‘just enough to get by’.

Aim beyond what you think you are capable of achieving. Challenge yourself to develop a total disregard for where your abilities end, and turn enthusiasm into the energy that moves you beyond your fears. Your future depends on many things, but mostly on you. You might succeed if nobody else believes in you, but you will never succeed if you don’t believe in yourself.

The difference between the average 90 and the uncommon 10 is that the average 90 will wait for opportunities to be exposed, while the uncommon 10 will create them. It takes perseverance to break away from the mediocre and to do something other than what most people are willing to do, which is to get a job…a job that pays them below their skill level. However, this person’s mindset may just be minimum wage. Isn’t it ironic that a person can be so talented and gifted, but their personal drive is like the power of a gas operated scooter and not that of a Ferrari.

Have you ever been at a point in life when you wanted to give up, throw in the towel, and quit for the rest of your life? Remember as children, when we played baseball and we failed to catch the ball, or being embarrassed at school for liking someone who didn’t like you? How about when you felt you were the most qualified for a position on your job but you were passed over because you just blended in? All of these, and more, real-life scenarios have been used as the culprit for quitting, or becoming stagnated, where you no longer gave a hundred percent effort.

Life is about always moving forward, no matter what—it’s not becoming stagnated by some emotional letdown like a child having a temper tantrum when something doesn’t work out the way you planned it. Finding excuses for quitting at life or giving up on your dream will give most people immediate access to depression and anxiety, which oftentimes, leads to self-destruction. However, those who have a resolve in their heart realize that quitting is not an option. Disappointments, frustrations, and failures, are all a part of life. Unfortunately, we cannot always escape these life factors, because while we are learning how to live, we are also learning how to succeed at whatever is before us. These life lessons inevitably lead to mistakes. How you deal with your errors will either demonstrate your mental stability and your inner strength, or the lack thereof.

For life to work in its most simplistic form, a person must understand that it takes wisdom to fast forward, intelligence to pause, integrity of strength to play, but foolishness to go backwards. If you can wrap your head around these for components, which can help in some way to make sense out of life, then you just might discover that the purpose of life really does make a lot of sense. You were not designed to be average.

No one comes into this world and begins life counting backwards by years, months, weeks, and days. All of humanity is designed for forward mobility, and we start, not at one, but at start. A person cannot set goals for the days they’ve already lived; they can only set goals for days that have not yet been lived. This suggests that there is a Mastermind and Designer who created us to live forward, not to die in backward mode.

Do yourself a favor and rid your mind of mediocrity. Examine your efforts, challenge your strength and intelligence, and take the limits of being average and throw it as far away from you as possible. Refuse to accept what life throws at you, like most people do, and throw at life what direction you believe God has designed you to go.

I understand that it is your life to do with as you please; however, it is not your right to make other people feel guilty because they don’t want to live their lives alongside yours. It is difficult to follow a parked car. If you are not going anywhere in life and your movement is synchronized with those who are average, can you please move out of the way so others can get by you without the possibility of tripping over you? If you want to waste your time, why would I want to give you the opportunity of wasting mine?

To break away from the norm you have been traveling, you have to move through the crowd of people to create your own path. People of destiny will make life happen; average people will wait for life to happen.

Jesus said, “If they compel you to go one mile, go two.”

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Do You Love Or Like What You Do?

Love your Job textThe title of this post is in the form of a question. I believe that success is the difference between what you love to do and what you like to do. I have never seen or known of anyone who exponentially succeeds at their business, job, or life who didn’t love what they do. I also, have never known of any successful person who didn’t respect his or her time.

There is something extraordinarily interesting to watch a person do what they love doing. On the other hand, there is nothing more disinteresting as to watch a person do what they absolutely feel they have to do without applying any real energy in the process. Success is the difference between loving what you do or simply liking what one does. If life is a bore, then you can believe work makes life that much more boring.

I love waking up in the morning—ready to approach a new day with new exciting adventures waiting for me to experience. I look forward to pioneering new territory and bold endeavors. I can’t imagine what life would be like if I didn’t have a purpose or agenda. When God wakes me up, I get to use the creative ability He gave me to create or to format my day. I discovered the reason successful and creative people love staying up at night to work on ideas as much as getting up in the morning to go back at their project.

I remember sitting in the lobby at the office of a friend of mine, who was on the phone at the time while I was waiting for him. At the lobby desk were two women that stood out to me because there appeared to be such a great contrast between their demeanors and body language. The woman who I assumed was the higher paid secretary appeared more friendly and professional than the other woman who was the receptionist. Sometimes, our tendency is to associate performance with pay grade, but not so in this case.

The person that appeared livelier and more professional about her appearance and how she approached doing her job was actually the receptionist. The secretary looked nice, but every movement of hers suggested she didn’t want to be there. She was bland in her response on the phone, she didn’t greet others with a smile, and there was nothing about her that would make people feel comfortable in approaching her. In fact, I saw one man who seemed to wait for her to turn her back so he could ask the receptionist a question. To me, this would imply that her body language was as intrusive and offensive than someone with halitosis.

After the secretary took me into my friend’s office, I asked him a question about her demeanor. He said, “Funny you would ask that question. My partner and I spoke of moving her to another office with less traffic.”

You see, the receptionist exuded personality and vigor because she loved what she was doing. People who are in business or simply a domestic engineer, if you do not love what you’re doing the odds of you succeeding in that field is slim to none. To love or to like is the difference between surviving and striving. Your energy level will always be low when you don’t want to be somewhere or when you don’t like the job you have. For those who enjoy their job, life, or business, there seems to never be enough hours in a day.

People who like what they do, work to live; people who love what they do, live to work. People who do not understand life and how it works are oftentimes envious of those who do. Low energy people think that the person who is full of energy and excitement about what they do is over doing it and that much effort is not necessary. When you find yourself pondering on thoughts like this, usually somewhere in your subconscious, you believe that all financially successful people are greedy. This is the furthest thing from the truth!

If you don’t love what you do by committing your life and energy to it, it’s not worth doing. When you hear of a house flipper buying houses and fixing them up for a person to buy, it’s not just for the money. People like this will go from one project to another because they love the challenge. Their motivation is to see their creative value put into a dilapidated house that will then cause others to want to buy their work. To love what you do has to have a motivation that is beyond money. Successful people have a motivation to help others, to be creative, and they ooze purpose. A person will work harder for their children and legacy than they will for only themselves.

If you can find joy in your work, it will become more than a job; it will be a daily adventure. If you can change your attitude, which is that small thing that matter, you will be promoted from mediocrity to excellence. Success will always be the experience with the person who loves what they do.

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Four Practical Ways To Optimize Your Life and Business

Optimizing your life TextWould you like to learn four simple procedures to optimize your life and business, while at the same time discovering how to reach the financial goals you set for yourself without trying very hard?
People are always searching for the secret to success or trying to find the mysterious map that will lead to the lost treasure buried hundreds of years ago. While many people spend their entire lifetime chasing the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow, these people often live a life full of aimless goals and fruitless pursuits. They are completely unaware of the reasons that drive them to no end. They seem to always be on alert for the next hot thing or chasing one multi-level marketing project after another.

These are often good people, but with very little patience. They are also driven by the apparent success of others, without realizing all the necessary real-life steps those successful men and women had to take. Oftentimes, paying the price for success is suffering through the gruesome climb to get there. Successful people didn’t try to live the life of the Jones’—pretending to look the part of being a success but actually living the secret life of a pauper. Many successful people simply took their time, walked through the process, and learned the lessons which needed to be embraced along the journey of success. This is where the pretenders have no patience; and the lack of patience causes a person to make foolish decisions. So, how does one finally arrive at the threshold of success? Well, ask yourself this question, “Am I trying to do good or make myself look good?”

We often hear the word optimization when it comes to the business world, but you rarely hear of it being mentioned and applied on a personal level. Therefore, ordinary people, like you and me, have a tendency to over complicate things when 98% of life or business is rather simple. When the simple things appear too simple to produce results, then the issue is with how the person perceives him or herself. They may feel as though they are too good to do the simple things in life. Jim Rohn said, “Success is nothing more than a few simple disciplines, practiced every day.”
What creates the situations and circumstances which keep us moving in circles, is when solutions are so simple that they’re overlooked. When a person feels coerced to do what they have to do to make a living, they stop living because they believe doing what they have to do is the only way they can survive. This is when limitless potential becomes limited potential. This belief denotes busyness not business.

To optimize something means to make it function at its best or most effectively or, to use something to its best advantage. Allow me to point you to four really powerful steps to optimize your life, and your business can follow the same path. But, before I give you these practical principles read this brief anecdote.

There was once a man who liked doing business, but he loved playing golf—his favorite hobby. One day, he stopped spinning his wheels on how to make a buck with his business, and started living his life doing what he really loved. He ended up playing golf professionally, and made more money playing golf than he did doing business. Now this is what I call simple optimization.

Practical Principle #1
Keep life as simple as possible.

Practical Principle #2
Don’t try to make yourself look good; do good!

Practical Principle #3
Be patient, but not lazy. Live your own dream.

Practical Principle #4
Do what you truly love because it beats doing what you feel coerced to do any day!

You have now discovered the pot of gold and it’s not at the end of the rainbow; it’s in you. Over thirty years ago, I was told by a wealthy man in the city where I reside, that making money is really simple. A few years after my brief encounter with this wealthy gentleman, I realized that the Bible shares the simple truth of this same principle!

“Only those who have patience to do simple things perfectly ever acquire the skill to do difficult things easily.”
                                                                                                                    ~James J. Corbett

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Control Your Environment for Success

Control Environment MB TextHave you ever felt a sense of hopelessness about a situation in your life or felt completely powerless to change your circumstances? Well, welcome to the club! Anybody who has ever thought of attempting anything worthwhile, has at some time in their life, looked up at a huge mountain of things to do, which seemed beyond their reach to complete. This viewpoint leads many people to never set goals, for fear they will not score.

People often approach me with the thought of starting a business, but they are quickly discouraged when they discover the amount of paperwork which must be completed, or the funds which are necessary to begin. Having a desire to start a business or to author a book is not motivation enough to propel a person to not only start, but also complete the endeavor.

Government agencies encourage people to pursue government funds which are offered to serious people. Bureaucratic red tape is a deterrent only to those who are not serious enough to pursue much-needed assistance, which may be offered to the general public through start-up business grants or low interest loans. As a result, their dreams will usually come to a squelching halt because they did not take into account how laborious and painstaking it is to start a business.

Listen to me! You do not have to be dissuaded or shoved around like some rag-doll by fear. You can discover the power to stand up to the bully of success, which is fear, and never feel powerless again. Feeling powerless and being powerless are two different positions, and feeling powerless does not make it so. The impediment standing between you and starting your dream endeavor, is not the lack of knowledge or money; it is simply the apprehension that it may be too hard or too much of a price to pay. Therefore, failure is the mental image which must be changed before you will ever believe you can set your dream in motion.

People have gone to great lengths to protect their emotion of fear so that in the eyes of relatives, friends, and associates, their personal image is not tainted. They want people to see them as powerful and daring. Therefore, they lie and shield their fears with anecdotes and excuses to direct the focus away from them. In truth, they are frightened of challenges and they have chosen to sit back in the comfort of mediocrity. Don’t look to manage your fears, learn how to cripple them before they cripple you.

People do not drown because they cannot swim; they drown because they believe they cannot swim. If a person drowns, it is because they panic and fight the water until they are completely exhausted. Afterwards, their bodies float to the top. You do not have to drown in order to float on top of water, you can simply decide to relax (be at ease) and you will find yourself floating. When people lose the fear of something, they can learn to master it; but as long as fear dominates a person, the thing they are fearful of will dominate them.

I would like to think that I am interested in wanting the best for people I love and mentor, especially those I am intimately engaged with on a daily and weekly basis. However, my nurturing image of what many of them can become, and the things I believe they are capable of accomplishing is oftentimes in conflict with where they have chosen to settle instead of pursuing their highest aspirations.

Stop living in fear and start fearlessly living. Life is short and filled with frustrations, disappointments, and failures. On the other hand, life is inundated with contentment, pleasures, and fulfillment. Failure and disappointment do not define you; they are designed to refine you.

My friend, it is how you see it. Frustrations can become advantageous, disappointments can become fulfilled appointments, and failure can be replaced with success. The choice is yours! Choose today, how you are going to live the rest of your life. Remember, how you live tomorrow is determined by the things you do today. Decision Determines Destiny!

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What We Have Is A Failure To Communicate

Communication1Does what you say matter more than how you say it? This is the age-old question that many people have concerning verbal communication. This dilemma seems to arrest people as they are trying to verbalize their feelings in order to get their point across. There is a huge discrepancy between the way people generally process the information they hear as opposed to the way they communicate their thoughts. Factors often exist when there is a breakdown in the communication process that are often overlooked such as culture, ethnicity, education, economics, a person’s mental condition, preferences, etc. These factors should not be undermined as though they are not important to proper communication. If a person desires to get their point across without causing a ruckus, it will prove to be a wise investment of time to learn communication skills. Especially if you are married, where most of your communication battles will occur, this is the ideal dialogue for you.

The Communicator’s Aim:
The person communicating should immediately take into account the aforementioned factors. This is not an assumption of one’s intelligence, but rather wisdom. The communicator’s aim should be to be understood. If a person attends any of my business conclaves, they can easily discern that I do not use big words to try to impress the people in attendance. My aim is not to impress, but to impress upon them the importance of the information given. I like to hold my audiences with my verbal skills not lose them.

Communication Problems in Marriage:
When married couples have communication problems, it is usually because they have established a non-verbal communication basis that they have not mastered. Assumptions are made because of previous misunderstanding and therefore instead of clearly communicating their thoughts to one another they give out singles that are rarely caught or understood. If you find yourself often saying, “I thought you meant…,” this response is an indication that you clearly have a communication problem.

A Communication Problem:
Some years back, there was a movie that Paul Newman starred in entitled, Cool Hand Luke. The character Paul Newman was playing was a rebel young man that often found himself in trouble with the law. He ended up in a back-woods prison surrounded by swamp and venomous snakes. The Warden would often inform the prisoners that if they tried to escape, they would both be recaptured and returned to be brutally beaten to serve as a reminder to not attempt to escape again or the swamp would kill them before they could escape to freedom. One day, Paul Newman’s character escaped, but was later captured and returned to the prison to resume his sentence. This is when the Warden spoke the famous phrase, “What we have here is a failure to communicate.” As a young man, I loved the phrase but I did not fully understand it until later in my years. What was meant was if you continue to do the opposite of what is spoken, obviously there is a misunderstanding.

Body Language Speaks Loudly:
Oftentimes, when words or phrases are misunderstood, it is usually because what is said may have a different meaning or connotation to the listener. The second reason for the possible misunderstanding could be, and in most cases is, when what is said does not correspond with the tone and facial expression when it was spoken. Therefore, the person may not have heard what you said because they were engulfed by how you said it. This is a major problem in marriage and sometimes in business board meetings. Identifying the problem is a third of the solution. However, knowing what to do with your new discovery is another part of the solution. Having the humility to place priority on the importance of getting and receiving an understanding, is far better and advantageous than gratifying your frustrations.

Clarification of a Solution:
Take your time, be patient, because the person you may be talking to, may have a legitimate hearing impairment. Communication is the basis to life. General simple verbiage gives you a far better percentage of being understood than speaking in an extra extensive vocabulary that may not impress anyone but you.

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The Dominant Quality In Leaders Of Distinction

MB Text 8-14-2015 (Leadership Qualities)It’s no secret that corporations look for prolific leaders to drive the corporate success van. This means putting the right person in the right role and surrounding that person with the right personnel. By doing so, corporate decision makers can increase the chances of producing a profit for its investors and show significant growth by the end of the year. So, what should their question be before starting their hunt for such a person(s)?

The primary question should not be, “Who is a difference maker?” Rather, it should be, “What qualities make one a difference maker?” Once this is established, the manhunt can begin since the search will narrow in on qualities rather than a person. Many mistakes have been made by people in search of the one person they believe can help change things for them or their team. Whether corporate or personal, judging and sizing up a person based on their present condition, or outward appearance, may prove to be impractical.

People who possess qualities which make them stand out aren’t as easily discernable. One reason, is they are not ambitious, nor do they have need of a title to define them. You may find a person who knows how to say the right words and is an over achiever, but lacks discipline and integrity. The person who is truly a difference maker is more interested in the quality of their work, than their work looking as though it has quality.

Let me explain what I consider to be an attribute. An attribute is a quality or characteristic of someone or something which gives credit for things such as a body of work, art, or a saying. An attribute can be considered a standard or conviction which causes a person to stand out. Imagine being in the company of difference makers who care about making a difference in society and in the lives of others.

What do you have when an entire team of people with difference maker qualities come together? What you have is a winning combination who can never be defeated. A difference maker is someone who is willing and able to fill all aspects of their role with confidence, who consistently delivers on objectives, and who follows or leads their team to peak performance. They understand their role is as essential as the next man’s. In many cases, a difference maker shakes things up, brings forth change, and demands results from themselves and their colleagues. They aren’t interested in being popular; they want success for the company or team even if it means not leading. With this attitude they will hit their targets and inspire their teams to do the same.

Difference makers are self-motivated. Difference makers are honest, they don’t cover up mistakes, and they are completely accountable for what works and what doesn’t work. They take full responsibility for their actions and results. You can’t tell if these people are difference makers by looking at them; their qualities are exposed by interacting with them. They are proactive, solution-oriented, and take-action people. Their values align with those of their organization or team, and these values drive day-to-day behaviors to pursue excellence.

How does a company, small business, or individual find a Difference Maker? Well, you can’t find them in the Yellow Pages. In the brawl for gifted able bodies, the challenges most organizations face are not limited to the simple unavailability of competent people. The hiring process is not set up to properly identify those who can truly make a difference. Focusing only on the skills and experience needed, the interviewer often pays too little attention to values, motivations, habits, work styles, behaviors, and cognitive abilities. Stop qualifying a person for where your company presently is, and start looking for those individuals who may not have all the skills, but who are willing to be molded into the person you need, not just want. Don’t look for the mate who completes you, look for the person who complements you.

Companies should design employment programs to become mentors to their employees instead of employers. Difference Makers are developed into their role not fit into it.

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Unsolicited Consequences

MB Text 7-26-2015 (Consequnce)What are consequences and why can they be fatal?

A consequence is something that follows as a result. Consequences can be good or bad, however, it is the relation between a result and its cause. If it is a negative result, it means a previous action resulted in an unpleasant or difficult outcome. There’s one thing about consequences – we all pay them.

Can you recall a time where you’ve personally said or done something for which you felt the consequences were unwarranted? No one ever complains and wonders why good things are happening to them, but most people are usually very confused as to why negative consequences occur. Negative consequences would never materialize without them first being paid for. Every consequence is paid in advance.

Now I believe, there is a cause and effect, and a ripple effect for everything everyone does, and those actions can have positive consequences as well as negative. Everyone has to make their own decisions, however you have to be able to accept the consequences without complaining. A person’s acceptance of what has taken place is the first step toward overcoming any unfortunate consequence. Everything has positive or negative consequences, and I can’t repeat this enough.

Sometimes, tremendous consequences come from what we sometimes consider to be little or insignificant decisions or actions. When the results seem to have a more devastating effect, I am tempted to think there is no such thing as little decisions or actions. On the other hand, small actions and decisions can also result in gigantic results.

“I never looked at the consequences of missing a big shot… when you think about the consequences you always think of a negative result.”
–Michael Jordan

Most youth never take into consideration the consequences of their actions until it is too late. How much more grievous are the consequences of anger than the causes of it. Is it possible to get in the way of someone’s consequences for an act they committed? Nothing is free in this world; either you pay your own consequences or someone else does. Choices made, whether good, bad, or indifferent, follow you forever and affect everyone in their path one way or another. Some of a person’s emotional scars can be the result of another person’s emotional pain. Hurt people; hurt people.

The way I avoid, as much as I can, the foolishness of someone else’s actions, is to mentally be aware of their capability. It’s similar to making a conscience decision, while you’re driving, to drive for the other guy as well. When you see someone swerving back and forth on the road, stay a good distance behind them or they may inadvertently cause an accident for you.

Without reflection, we blindly go on our way, generating more unintended consequences, and always falling short of achieving anything useful. The actions we take and the decisions we make in this waking moment will have consequences reaching far into our futures. It doesn’t matter if we don’t mean to do the things we do. It means nothing if it was an accident or a mistake. It doesn’t even matter if we think this is all up to fate. Regardless of our destiny, we still have to answer for our actions; and our consequences are those answers.

We all make choices, big and small, every day of our lives, and those choices have consequences. Everyone is going to eventually sit at the table and eat the meal of consequences. However, you can personally be totally engaged in the effort to ensure that the consequences you eat daily, are good and beneficial, as the result of you making sure your actions and decisions are calculating consequences worth paying for.

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What is Your Time Worth

MB 7-21-15 TextCan time make you rich or poor? I want you to think for a moment, and ponder on this question. Are you spending your time learning and planning to die or are you using your time learning and planning to live?

I am impressed with the urgency to do. Action is a unique word that I love to see in motion because I become thrilled by the prospect of its results. I am not impressed with just knowing something; it just isn’t enough for me. However, the application of knowledge is captivating. To be willing is not enough; I believe we must be more than willing, we must do. If people will govern the time they have to accomplish the things they truly desire for their future, they will have more time in their future to live the life they really want to live.

It is a well-known fact that people of accomplishment rarely sit back and let things happen to them. This is because they do the inside work first, something transpires within them which causes them go out and generate things to happen for them. All that occurs with passive time, are the things you don’t want to happen.

Children spend most of their time growing and learning as the world opens daily to their senses. Young people spend time searching for ways to live and enjoy life. Aging people usually stop growing and learning, and have little to no interest in searching for ways to live life, because they’ve decided the only thing remaining for the aging is to sit and wait for time to close their eyes forever. When time is spent, eternity begins. Waiting is procrastination stealing your time away. No matter how old you are, time is available to use wisely.

Living with purpose is the act of living on purpose. In other words, you have a reason to get up every morning with the anticipation that something good awaits you. You view your alarm clock as your opportunity clock alerting you of the time you have for that day. Time stays long enough for anyone who will use it. If you spend too much time thinking about doing something, you will actually end up wasting the precious time you have to do it. Most people spend more time and energy going around problems than they do trying to solve them. Life becomes more challenging when you are actually engaged in the effort, and not primarily with the results.

Don’t let the fear of the time it will take to accomplish something stand in the way of your doing it. Believe you me, when your time used wisely converts to dollars and fulfillment, it becomes worth it for you. When you value your time, you will do something with it. You will not allow others to steal it from you, nor will you give it away to undeserving people who don’t value their own time.

Think about this for a moment; your time is your life. Time is nothing but years, months, weeks, days, hours, minutes, and seconds gifted-wrapped as a precious present given to humanity, and it’s called life. The only difference with this gift is that it is not a surprise you know exactly what’s inside. The only issue which can possibly exist is your ignorance of knowing what to do with it. There is nothing that cannot happen today in the allotted time you have.

We all have dreams. But in order to turn dreams into reality we need to turn time into effort. Your life and dreams are like a garden which requires patient labor and attention. Plants do not grow merely to satisfy ambitions or to fulfill good intentions, they thrive because someone took the time to expend the necessary effort on them.

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